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Question ladies

If you worked at an office and got an anonymous gift (a bear or non-rose flowers) on Valentines Day with a card that says "Sometimes you just look like you could use a hug."

Would you think?

A. I have a stalker
B. What a sweet gesture! I'm glad someone notices me.
C. This really pisses me off!


Just wondering.

Wander

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jezabel_pheonix
Feb. 7th, 2007 07:17 pm (UTC)
Id go with option B
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 07:24 pm (UTC)
Good to know. she's not in my department and other than the polite smile in the hall when we pass, I doubt she knows I exist but I just get a little vibe from her that she'd like someone to notice her.

W
hielha
Feb. 7th, 2007 07:36 pm (UTC)
I'm going to go with B as well. That's a great way to brighten someone's day.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 09:59 pm (UTC)
Good, I was hoping so but I came from a small office environment where everyone knew each other and the giving of gifts for doing special things was an everyday thing. Now my office has 10 times the people and I hate to say it, there is much less of a feeling of family here. So I didn't really know how to approach it.

W
boomshak
Feb. 7th, 2007 07:40 pm (UTC)
uh...

A: for a valentines card.

B: for a "hey I'm going to Subway, can I get you something"
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 10:05 pm (UTC)
Nah, I wasn't going to do a card anyway. I might be reading more into the vibe that I get from her than what is there but I get the feeling she's kind of lonely and doesn't get told she's doing a good job much. At my old office, we knew that once a project was finished, there would not be much time for congratulations so we strove to tell each other when a good job was done. I don't get the feeling that happens here all that much. Now I could be really wrong about her and come in Valentines Day to see she has gotten this huge bouquet from her significant other or her boss but I don't think so.

W
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evangelinaarion
Feb. 7th, 2007 07:44 pm (UTC)
I would go with B. That would put a smile on my face.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 10:08 pm (UTC)
I'm hoping that will be the reaction from this person. But I've had well intentioned things backfire on me too. and knowing ahead of time that men never will figure out what makes a woman tick, I figured I'd ask first.

W
ryl
Feb. 7th, 2007 08:01 pm (UTC)
B. and I'm going to steal that idea for one of the people in la pluma who's dealing with some health problems.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 10:07 pm (UTC)
I like getting anonymous gifts, especially when I'm feeling down. It just lets me know someone out there is concerned for my well being. Sometimes that's all the encouragement someone needs.

W
beautyofgrey
Feb. 7th, 2007 08:22 pm (UTC)
1600 Perimeter Pa.... oh, sorry. I'm a flower-whore. :P

I guess that makes my answer B.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 10:05 pm (UTC)
I'd be willing to bet someone will send you flowers on that day.

W
carocrow
Feb. 7th, 2007 09:09 pm (UTC)
I asked the hubs; he said he'd probably consider it a non-romantic female gesture, probably from someone who saw him as a friend or brother.

So I guess, it would be "B", unless it was from someone the person was trying to make time with. That would sting a little.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 09:55 pm (UTC)
Nah, it's for this girl who's actually very attractive but I don't think she thinks so. And she does an awful lot of work that I'm not sure she's appreciated for. She looks down a lot and gives people (including me) one of those nervous little smiles of acknowledgement when she passes them in the hall. Very often in this job, the accomplishments of individuals are overlooked as long as the product gets out on time. I get this vibe from her that a little bit of being noticed would go a long way.

W
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nessachan
Feb. 7th, 2007 09:52 pm (UTC)
D. None of the above.

I would be really curious about who did it, and probably never make eye contact with anyone again... haha.. maybe that's closest to option A.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 09:56 pm (UTC)
And this of course is why I asked. But she doesn't make eye contact with anyone now so that wouldn't change.

W
brotherskeeper1
Feb. 7th, 2007 10:29 pm (UTC)
Since you just started this job I'd have to say that some woman really likes you and is after you.
wander
Feb. 7th, 2007 10:44 pm (UTC)
Oh, I was planning to do this for someone else. It would really amke my day if someone did it for me.

W
redsgoddes
Feb. 8th, 2007 12:30 am (UTC)
I've never gotten an anonymous anything LOL I'd think it was a sweet gesture (B) and I'd be thrilled.
wander
Feb. 8th, 2007 01:56 am (UTC)
Thank you dear. Your opinion means a lot to me.

W
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kittles
Feb. 8th, 2007 12:35 am (UTC)
B!
wander
Feb. 8th, 2007 01:56 am (UTC)
Why thank you ma'am. Someone should send you an anonymous jar of Mt. Olive Pickles.

W
green_noise
Feb. 8th, 2007 02:32 am (UTC)
sounds like a good idea. go for it.

what's the worst that could happen? she thinks you're trying to get in her pants, but then after a while it becomes obvious you're making no such moves, and she'll feel silly?
wander
Feb. 8th, 2007 09:51 am (UTC)
That was kind of my thinking originally but then we guys are always guessing wrong in that department.

W
yndy
Feb. 8th, 2007 03:27 am (UTC)
actually, I'd be inclined toward the stalker - having been the victim of 2 of them...

if you're going to do it - be up front about it - anonymous is scary...
yndy
Feb. 8th, 2007 03:31 am (UTC)
p.s. More than okay to send - or even drop off - the non-rose flowers saying "I just wanted to let you know that you are appreciated around here - and Valentine's Day gave me an excuse to buy you the flowers without coming off as more than a friendly gesture!"
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skywalkerchick
Feb. 8th, 2007 03:29 am (UTC)
A. followed by extreme paranoia
wander
Feb. 8th, 2007 09:58 am (UTC)
You are in the minority but I can see your point or I wouldn't have asked. I wonder how much of that response in general has to do with the the difference in the mindset of rural versus urban dwellers.

W
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wander
Feb. 8th, 2007 10:05 am (UTC)
The B's are definitely in the majority on this one. As I wondered aloud above, I wonder how much the variety of responses has to do with living for a long time in rural vs. urban settings. I can't think of too many rural folk who would react with suspicion and paranoia. Also the dynamic of a small office like the one I came from vs. a big one (there are over 500 people in our building). The previous one really felt like an extended family and this sort of thing went on all the time. We all worked in offices, but even when doors were closed, a knock was good enough to gain entrance. Here most of us work in cubes but even without doors, there seems to be a more solid boundary. I guess I can see where someone might then get the idea that someone was watching them. People in cubes I guess imagine an invisible barrier between them and the next cube person. I've not developed that yet and still listen to every conversation I can hear.

W
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