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I'm shaking a little right now because my Mom just called and told me my uncle Mervyn passed on this morning. It's strange because my Dad emailed me this morning with this..."He is still in the hospital and will
be for a few more days. Apparently, this is a continuation of the general
condition which will not get any better but continue to deteriorate. This is
an example of why smoking etc.. has consequences."

He has been in and out of the hospital for the last year or so with the symptoms of congestive heart failure. He had emphysema from years of smoking and he's been on oxygen for the past couple of years...unable to fully enjoy all the things he was looking forward to in retirement. He was a farmer all the years I've known him. And he was always thrilled to help out with any sort of small engine repair. That's what he did for a few years after riding on a tractor seat all day in the hot sun got to be too much for his health. He worked for a John Deere dealership repairing tractors and lawn mowers. Back in 96 when my truck engine threw a rod, he lent me one of his old beaters and then went car shopping with me to find the best deals from the local used car places. In short, he looked out for me when I needed to be looked out for.My fondest memories of him were from when we were little kids and we would come to visit him and his wife Peggy on the farm. We would play with his daughter Pam and late sons Matt and Mike. riding in the grain bin of the combine at harvest time and being showered with corn or soybeans and tons of grasshoppers jumping about. Or climbing up in the corn crib to push the cob corn down to feed to the hogs. Or being placed on the back of a muddy hog to ride so that when you came in for dinner, the inside of you pant legs would be covered in sticky mud. Or jumping off the tops of 50 and 75 foot grain silos into big hay stacks. Or the countless games of softball, hosrseshoes, lawn darts at family reunions. Or the cached horde of bottle rockets, black cats and M-80's that always seemd to appear on hot, dry July 4th days for a throng of excited kids.

I'm going to miss him alot.

Last I saw him was a few weeks ago when my folks were out and we had a family get together. He seemed in good spirits at least. Dad and I have been fearing that this would be the last year we'd have with Merv and we were in the process of modifying Christmas plans to spend the holidays out here instead of me going to NC as I usually do. I had just written Dad back that if he was out of the hospital this week, I'd go see him this weekend. Too late. Mom called almost as soon as I sent the email.

So I'll probably been offline tomorrow. I'll head down to the farm after work and start getting the house in order. I know Mom and Dad will be heading out and you never know who else will stop by. I don't know any funeral plans yet. If you would like, please send energy for a smooth passing and to help his wife and daughter in their grief process. His name was Mervin Redenius and he lived near Camp Point, IL.

Peace,

Wander

Comments

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fynne
Aug. 12th, 2002 10:06 am (UTC)
sending energy...take care during this hard experience.
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 11:48 am (UTC)
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Thanks much. funeral looks to be Thursday so I may not be around much this week.

Wander

jehosephat
Aug. 12th, 2002 10:28 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle. I kinda had the same thing happen a few months ago. I've got some uncles who live together. Everyone calls them "the boys" as in "Let's go down to the boys and work on the car". I was thinking about going down to visit and didn't get around to it. A week later one of them had a major stroke. I visited him in the hospital two days before he passed away. He was in a coma at the time. Made me wish I had followed up on my instinct a week earlier.
I'll be putting up well wishes for his family and for you.
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 11:51 am (UTC)
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Yeah, Dad and I had talked about me going to visit this past weekend. In fact we've both said several times over the past year that we should visit as often as possible because you never know when it could be the last time. But it's so hard to visit when he was in the hospital as he was out of it most of the time and when they are in ICU they don't let too many people visit at once and you always want to leave that time for the immediate family. Thanks for the sentiments.

Wander

carocrow
Aug. 12th, 2002 10:53 am (UTC)
Large hugs to you, and will be sending energy and prayers for you and your family during this time of loss.

Be kind to yourself, eat right and get rest.
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 11:54 am (UTC)
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I will. I sort of resign myself to people dying around me at times. With Merv it was more when then if lately. We all knew it was coming. But you hoped he would hold out a few more years as that family has had a lot of tragedy with the death of two grown sons in the last ten years. My cousin Pam, Merv's daughter is my age so I'll try to be there for her as much as I can. Her brother Matt, just a few years older than me was killed by a drunk driver while he was on his Harley the same week my grandmothr died in 93 and Pam still made it to Grandma's funeral and was there for us when we needed family around. Thanks for the thoughts.

Wander
cuddles
Aug. 12th, 2002 10:56 am (UTC)
That's hard news man. Jessica and I are sending you besy wishes and our condolences during this time.

Later

Cuddles
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 11:55 am (UTC)
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Thanks to both of you and wish her luck on her interview from me.

Wander

shades_ofgreen
Aug. 12th, 2002 11:14 am (UTC)
You and your family will be in my thoughts and I'm sending you all the good energy that I can muster.

Love and big smothering huggs,
-Purgi
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 11:57 am (UTC)
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Thanks much dear!

Wander

namaste21
Aug. 12th, 2002 01:01 pm (UTC)
I'm thinking of you, too, as well as the family...

take care.
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 02:49 pm (UTC)
Thank you ma'am. Hope things are going better for you now too.

Wander
progress
Aug. 12th, 2002 01:23 pm (UTC)
So sorry to read that, Sir Wander. I know how it feels to lose someone that looked out for me-- and I don't wish it on anyone. Best wishes to you.

nik
wander
Aug. 12th, 2002 02:47 pm (UTC)
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Thanks buddy. Funeral is Friday and I seem to be the midwest coordinator for all the folks coming from both coasts. Keeps you busy and keeps you mind from dwelling on things.

Wander

ryl
Aug. 12th, 2002 03:15 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear about your uncle. Seems like it always happens, whenever the "if" becomes "when" the "when" is always round the next bend. Good thoughts to you.
wander
Aug. 13th, 2002 08:26 am (UTC)
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Thanks. Found out last night I'm to be a pall bearer. Funeral is Friday.

Wander

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wander
Aug. 13th, 2002 08:31 am (UTC)
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Thanks dear. It really wasn't much a surprise an actually I'm more at ease knowing he's not suffering anymore. When all you can do is sit around and breath and watch TV because everything else takes too much energy, it's not much of a life anymore. It's nice knowing he's free now.

Wander

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wander
Aug. 13th, 2002 09:20 am (UTC)
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Thanks love.

Wander

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