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Funeral for a Friend

The funeral went well though I wouldn't reccomend digging a grave in the dark in the Winter in Illinois farm soil that has never been broken. After we buried him, I took Deb back up to the house and went back to place some slabs of limestone on the grave. It's coyote mating season and the last thing I wanted was for him to be dug up. I took a bit of sage and cedar and asked a blessing. Asked Shadow Woman, She Who Dances on the Wind and Coyote to look out for him. Asked Jake and Bugsy to help him learn the ropes. Then went to spend time with Deb. She slept fitfully. Often waking up to cry or ask to be held. Sometimes wondering if it was her falut. I kept reasuring her. Finally about 5 am she got up and went downstairs to be alone for a bit. Funny how quickly the bed gets cold when she leaves it. About 6:45 she came back up and sat on the edge of the bed. She gently shook me awake and I opened my eyes to an excited look on her face. She couldn't hold it in, it just burst forth. "you know your female cardinal friend, what's her name? Shadow Woman? Well I was sitting in the chair and she landed on a branch just outside the window and looked at me then started to sing!'

"Yeah, I asked her and the others to look out for Peeker. She must be telling you he's OK."

She hugged me hard and then ran off back downstairs. 10 minutes later the first alarm went off and I sang Danny's Song for a few minutes along with the radio. Eventually I got out of bed and we went back out to check on the grave. Everything was OK and we placed a couple pieces of honey calcite amid the slabs of limestone and bade Peeker goodbye for now.

Went to town to say hello to her cousin at work. Went to the bakery and got a peach pie. Then drove back to the city, laughing and joking.




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Feb. 22nd, 2006 09:39 pm (UTC)
A sweet farewell.
Feb. 22nd, 2006 10:11 pm (UTC)
Yeah it was nice and peaceful.

Feb. 22nd, 2006 10:06 pm (UTC)
That made me tear up - I'm such a girl but YEAH for helping healing :)! -Mystrys
Feb. 22nd, 2006 10:12 pm (UTC)
Re: Aww...
I love girls who are girls. I actually cry more than anyone I know. I was a mess last night.

Feb. 23rd, 2006 01:13 am (UTC)
I'm so happy that Shadow Woman came to give you both that message. I'm sure Peeker is doing well. I sometimes get visted by pets who have passed on. Keep an eye on your other cat. He will be able to "see" Peeker and you'll know when he has come for a visit. :) Death only ends a life...not a relationship.
Love and Light
Feb. 23rd, 2006 01:15 am (UTC)
Thanks love.

Feb. 23rd, 2006 07:49 am (UTC)
I am glad that a difficult farewell is proving well assisted. Mine own cat companion of 17 years is currently kittenish-spry, but she's been diabetic for four or five years and I know it's merely a matter of time; I can only hope when that time comes, that I can respond to the circumstance as well as you've done.
Feb. 23rd, 2006 07:50 am (UTC)
Of course, given the sort of activities in which I participate, I suppose it's likely she'll outlive me. *wry grin*
Feb. 23rd, 2006 10:19 pm (UTC)
Of course it's always the toughest part about having animals live with you is that you can be reasonably sure you are going to outlive them and dealing with their passing i always tough. I wish your kitty friend long life.

Feb. 28th, 2006 09:48 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about Peeker. Your post made me cry, too. I know how sad it is to lose an animal friend, and you have been through it several times in the past year.
Hope your family heals quickly.
Feb. 28th, 2006 09:50 pm (UTC)
If we didn't have two toher cats I think it would be tougher but even though they are constant reminders of Peeker, they are also constant friends.

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