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Ask me one question

(stolen from beautyofgrey)

Ask me a question about each of the following. I changed a few from hers:

1. friends
2. sex
3. music
4. drugs
5. love
6. livejournal
7. patriotism
8. photography
9. Natives
10. ties

I'll answer each in comments



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Jul. 18th, 2008 12:31 pm (UTC)
1. Who is your most complicated friend and why?
2. Do you think "we" as a society will ever grow up and lose our hang ups about sex?
3. What type of music makes you angry?
4. Do you think our culture has become too "happy pill" dependent?
5. Does love last forever?
6. How do you post pictures to livejournal? Also, have you ever posted something you were then afraid the person you wrote about would read?
7. How do you feel about the cuts to military benefits?
8. Have you ever considered doing a study of Native American faces?
9. What is the single most important thing we can do to help the Native American people keep their culture alive?
10. Who invented ties and WHY?

Jul. 18th, 2008 08:38 pm (UTC)
1. That could go a lot of ways. For instance, I could say Ted because I've not seen him in years and I strongly disagree with the path his life took but I still consider him a friend. Then there are several of my friends whom I have romantic feelings for and it's sometimes tough to know what the boundaries are. I'd say it would have to be Dan Black Coal. As a person he's complicated on many levels. As a friend, our relationship has endured many hardships but has endured. Also, we never see each other. In the past several years we've just missed seeing each other half a dozen times and now he lives in Oregon. So even trying o stay in touch and maintain the friendship is complicated.
2. I think we could overcome our hangups about sex if we started thinking for ourselves and became our own moral compasses rather than abdicating that responsibility to religion or government. I think if we did what we felt was right and taught our children what we felt was right rather than asking our church or government to tell us what was right, we would be much better off in that regard. But if you meet a person who thinks your feelings regarding sex are wrong they will most often point to a religious law or statutory law as part of their reasoning.
3.Mostly Hip Hop. Some for the lyrics, some for the subject matter but most of all for the lack of musicianship.
4. Very much so. There was a time when people either sucked it up and overcame their problems or worked through them. Now everyone wants a quick fix and it shows in so many other areas of our society.

Answer in 2 different parts because I got wordy
Jul. 18th, 2008 08:38 pm (UTC)
5. Forever is a subjective term but I think the feeling of love can last from the time you meet someone to the time you die and perhaps beyond. I think when people say they have fallen out of love they really mean they have just gotten so fed up with being near someone that they don't want to be near them anymore. For me, anyone I've ever loved, I've continued to love though there are some I want nothing to do with as far as a relationship goes.
6. Two ways of posting pictures to LJ. 1) you place them on a remote server and copy the URL address into a bit of script in your post so you either see them right away or you get a link to them. Or if you look on your info page, there is a link near the top for SCRAPBOOK. There you can start an online album of digital photos and when you want to include one in a post, you can use the Insert Image link you see on the posting window or you can go to the scrapbook page, get the URL for photo and post that into script you write on your own. Either way, I can send you some screen shots to show you how. When I first started keeping this journal, I wrote whatever the hell I wanted to. As time went on and I gathered more friends, I started considering how my audience would react to certain things. So now I use the various filters or sometimes don't say something at all. There have been posts I've made that later I go back and filter so yes, there have been some that I've worried about the effect on the person they are about.
7. I think when you have a society that must be defended by warriors, it is the responsibility of all those who are not warriors to provide for their needs and those of their families. That's just the way it's supposed to be. Anyone who feels that is not warranted should be made to serve in the military or find a new country to live in. A Soldier signs a contract to serve his country in exchange for certain benefits. But as our Government shows a propensity for breaking treaties, promises and contracts whenever it sees fit, I'm not at all surprised. The problem is, those who choose to fight are fighting for values that apparently our government does not share.
8. Question 8 and 9 have a lot to do with each other. I see a lot of things in Native faces. I think we can learn a lot from Native people but the devices we use to study them are patently invasive. There is really no way of studying a system by simply observing it. But becoming involved with it, disturbs it and changes it and it becomes something other than what you set out to study. There are photographic studies of Native Faces and I dearly would have loved to have been there to take the photos but what I really want is to know the person behind the face and you can't get that from a photo.
9. The single most important thing is to leave them alone if our goal is preserving culture. That's never been the overall goal of our Nation though. That goal has always and continues to be assimilation. We are much like the Borg in that way. Stop treating them like second class citizens, go back and honor some of our treaties and then leave them alone. Let them make the decision to assimilate or not. Their cultures will develop just fine on their own.
10. Ties may go back as far as Rome in about 113 AD but it was Croatia in the 1650's that is credited with the modern necktie. It's original purpose was to replace a collar on a shirt which protected the neck from sun, wind and cold and absorbed sweat. It was the French who saw the cravats worn by the Croatians who made them more decorative. They were often worn among the royal court.

Thanks for Playing!

Jul. 18th, 2008 02:29 pm (UTC)
9. Natives
I don't remember if you said what tribes or tribe your blood line runs?
Jul. 18th, 2008 04:00 pm (UTC)
Re: 9. Natives
My Great, great, great grandmother was a woman named Sh'Na. She was half Kickapoo on her mother's side and half Shawnee on her father's side. They lived in a Shawnee village near what is now Freeport, Harrison County, OH. She married my Great, great, great Grandfather, John Kinsey who was 4th generation American but whose paternal family hailed from Switzerland and Maternal family hailed from Ireland. They were married in 1828, however, they had been living together for some time before that which was a bit unconventional as he was Quaker. Sh'Na passed on between 1844 and 1846, probably from Cholera. They'd had a child or two that died before they were formally married. But then one son, John R. Kinsey and two daughters Rachel and Rhoda from 1836 to 1844. John R. is my ancestor. He is the one that came to Schuyler, County, IL where I live now.

I am a member of the Shawnee Nation Southeastern Alliance headquartered in Lenoir, NC.

Jul. 18th, 2008 04:13 pm (UTC)
Re: 9. Natives
I have to go three generations back to a ggg aunt who came to the west coast by way of laid a laid off Hudson bay trapper turned wagon scout(?) Jarvis, she was from one of the quebec area tribes.

I have a good res friend who is half German, his grandfather was one of the elders in the confederated tribe here.
Jul. 18th, 2008 08:42 pm (UTC)
Re: 9. Natives
I think most everyone knows someone who is Native. Not everyone knows they know though.

Jul. 18th, 2008 03:01 pm (UTC)
1. Do you have more male or female friends?
2. Do you often fantasize about someone else other than your partner?
3. You favorite band of all time?
4. Are there any drugs you've done, or would like to have done?
5. How many people have you fallen in (romantic) love with over your lifetime?
6. Why don't you update more often?
7. What's your working definition of patriotism?
8. What type of digital SLR camera would you recommend to me that is both affordable and yet of awesome quality?
9. How do you begin your journey as a shaman?
10. Black cord, or red cord, and how tight do you like it?
Jul. 18th, 2008 09:19 pm (UTC)
1. My very close friends are almost all male. But otherwise, my female friends outnumber my male friends about 7 to 1. To let you know there are 5 friends I consider as very close friends. 1 of them is female. These are people I'd die for and I hope would do the same for me.
2. When I'm with my partner, no. When not, yes, frequently. And for various reasons. Some are LJ friends. Some are those perfect people you make up in your head and some are real friends or lover's I've had or met.
3. Very hard to narrow down. I'm going with The Doors today. That may change.
4. I've smoked Pot and it does nothing but make me sleep. I've done peyote and it's something I'm glad to have done but won't do again. I see no reason why anyone should do cocaine, heroin, crack or crystal meth. For the most part meditation and shamanic journeying take care of any desire to be high. But I will admit to enjoying a good sweat lodge with a mixture of sage, juniper and yarrow in the water for the rocks. Nice and very mellow buzz that slowly fades over several hours. If I want something more immediate, I'll just have a few beers or pass a bottle of cheap wine around a campfire among friends.
5. 5 if I'm being perfectly honest. Out of over 3 dozen I've had some sort of relationship with. I'm not sure if those are good odds or not.
6. It's become a matter of time management anymore. My boss asked me not to at work. Not that I don't answer comments at work anymore or make the occasional post on my lunch hour. The last couple of years have just left little time for more relaxing things. I just need to really set myself a time each day to update. I try to make up for it by reading my friend's list and commenting.
7. Respecting the beliefs of others but honoring the values and principals America was founded on, not necessarily the ones it subscribes to now.
8. The DSLR market has really narrowed in the past several years. Olympus was an early leader but they seem to be more fascinated by Bells and Whistles now. Minolta has gotten out of the DSLR game. So it's pretty much down to Canon and Nikon. I don't think either really has an edge over the other. Just a matter of preference. For my money, I'd look for a good used Nikon D70. It's teh one I have. Unless you are going to be doing photography for a living you really don't need the higher megapixels of the new models. Because the size of the sensor in a DSLR is so much bigger than in a point and shoot digitals, the 6.1 Mp of the D70 will seem like 10 Mp or better from a point and shoot. www.adorama.com is a good place to look.
9. I sometimes say by accident. It was by choice but not a very informed choice. Kind of like Morpheus asking Neo to choose the red or blue pill. Mine was a choice of helping someone I loved or getting the hell out. My heart and my penis made that choice for me. I don't regret it though.
10. Black cord. Tight enough to restrain or however tight you'd like it to be.

Thanks for asking!

Jul. 19th, 2008 04:55 am (UTC)
10. Fish - He likes fish ties. *shudder*
Jul. 21st, 2008 03:56 pm (UTC)
Better to tie you up with my dear.

Jul. 19th, 2008 12:06 am (UTC)
6. What brought you to LiveJournal? When, where,and why?
Jul. 21st, 2008 03:55 pm (UTC)
OK, the embarrassing truth comes out. In late August of 2000, I was ahem...browsing the web for information on bondage and discipline. This was I think before GOOGLE became the great search engine it is today. I was using DOGPILE I think. Anyway, I found this online journal for someone named mystrys who is a professional dominatrix. I read through her journal a bit and liked how everything was set up so I got my own LJ. I was what they called an Early Adopter. I was one of the first 15,000 accounts. # 12434 actually I think. For a month or so, I had just Mystrys as a friend. But I started commenting on her entries and met cuddles, ryl and dragonfly. Soon I had about 10 friends and things have grown from there. I've always thought of my LJ friends as potential real friends and have met several of them over the years. I was living in Peoria, IL when I started on LJ.

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